Duas for a Happy Married Life: Being a part of today’s generation, I am met with new trends (or in Islamic term “Fitnas”) every day, and somehow if I don’t approve or follow them, I am considered illiterate. While other “so-called fashions” need to be addressed separately, one particular aspect that is making its way in our society quite speedily is the demolition of marital and family life.
Nowadays, when someone mentions they are getting married, they are met with shocked or disgusted looks as if they are committing a heinous crime. Some question how they will manage in-laws, others are curious about how you can keep a commitment to your spouses, while the remaining are advising against it because it might end in divorce. What I don’t understand is how come the sacred institute of marriage has become a mocking stock for people? Why the relation that was considered the purest has been tarnished by the current norms of the world?
Sadly the world we live in today is going towards immorality, where illegitimate relations are prioritized and considered a personal right. What is alarming is that these wrong values are gradually making their way towards Muslim society and embedding its roots in the young generation’s minds. The need of the hour is to realize that an Islamic society cannot flourish without balance, and the only thing upholding this balance is marriage.
Importance of Marriage in Islam
In Islam, marriage is a sacred ritual that creates a bond between a man and a woman through a contract called Nikah. It is solemnized in the presence of witnesses from the groom and bride side. The only prerequisite is that the groom must pay Mahr, a certain amount of money, as a gift to the bride. As Allah Almighty says in the Holy Quran
“And give to the women (whom you marry) their Mahr (obligatory bridal money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage) with a good heart, but if they, of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it to you, take it, and enjoy it without fear of any harm (as Allah has made it lawful) (4:4)”
After the marriage has been consummated, it is advised to give a feast called Walima to celebrate the occasion.
It was narrated from Abu Hurairah (RA) that the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said: ‘The wedding feast on the first day is an obligation, on the second day is a custom and on the third day is showing off.” (Sunan Ibn Majah, Vol. 3, Book 9, Hadith 1915)
Marriage is a relationship of trust, compromise, and tranquillity that is as strong as any blood relation. In many instances, its importance is mentioned in the Holy Quran, while the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) himself has encouraged Muslims not to delay this noble act. But the point here is that marriage in Islam is not only meant to fulfill the needs of a human being rather, it happens by the will of Allah Almighty, and therefore its responsibilities should also be fulfilled for the sake of Allah.
Duas for a Happy Married Life
Making dua or supplication is one of the most likable act by Allah Almighty. Allah has permitted His servants to ask for anything of this world or the next and in return, He has promised that He will either answer our prayers or reward us for His remembrance. Abu Hurairah [may Allah be pleased with him] narrated that:
The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said: “Whoever wishes that Allah would respond to him during hardship and grief, then let him supplicate plentifully when at ease.” (Jami` at-Tirmidhi 3382)
While searching for supplications for ensuring happiness in marriage, you will probably find numerous recommendations in different Islamic books and webpages. Some will suggest you read a particular Surah (Chapter) or Ayah (Verse) for a specific number of times that will give you a spouse of your desire or solve all your marital problems. But it is hard to authenticate the truth from falsehood due to lack of reference, which leaves a doubt that whether this way of reading is allowed or in accordance with the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH)?
One thing I have seen the Muslims of this generation indulged in are practices that are not part of the teachings of the Holy Quran and the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). These are termed as Bidah, which means innovation. Bidah is severely disliked, and Allah Almighty has cursed those who introduce novelty in Islam even under the pretext that it is a good deed. According to the hadith narrated by Aishah (RA)
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: “Whoever innovates something in this matter of ours (i.e. Islam) that is not part of it, will have it rejected.”
Therefore while doing a good deed, it is an obligation upon every Muslim to avoid supplications that are not backed by the Holy Quran and Hadith. Following the above-mentioned hadith here are specific duas that the couples should invocate for a happy married life and for uncountable blessings in marriage.
5. Supplication for Newly Married Couples
Our Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) would always pray for his followers and bestow best wishes for the couple on the occasion of their wedding. Abu Hurairah narrated that:
When supplicating for the newlywed, the Prophet would say: “May Allah bless you and send blessings upon you, and bring goodness between you.” (Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1091)
4. Supplication for one’s wife
The love between a husband and a wife is the basis of a successful marriage. Hence, a supplication made for each other with the sincerest heart can protect this bond from all the world’s evils. It was narrated from ‘Abdullah bin ‘Amr:
The Prophet (PBUH) said: “When anyone of you gets a new wife, a servant, or an animal, let him take hold of the forelock and say: O Allah, I ask You for the goodness within her and the goodness that she is inclined towards, and I seek refuge with you from the evil to which she is inclined.” (Sunan Ibn Majah Vol. 3, Book 9, Hadith 1918)
You should also go through these Basic Rights of Wives in Islam.
3. Dua before Sexual Intercourse between Husband and Wife
The beauty of Islam is that it is not a religion but a complete way of life. As you start reading through the Holy Quran and Sunnah, you will be surprised that every aspect of our daily lives is covered in it and mentioned in detail. Amazingly, it gives a complete guide on how a husband and wife are allowed to have intercourse without undermining the sanctity of the religion. Narrated by Ibn `Abbas:
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “If anyone of you, when having sexual intercourse with his wife, says: Bismillah, Allahumma jannibni-Sh-Shaitan wa jannib-ish-Shaitan ma razaqtana, and if it is destined that they should have a child, then Satan will never be able to harm him.” (Sahih al-Bukhari 5165)
Here are some 100+ Islamic Marriage Quotes For Husband and Wife.
2. Protection of Couple from Satan and Magic
The strength of the relationship between husband and wife amounts to the trust they have in each other. As strong as it is, this bond is an easy target of Satan. Like it or not, the most significant achievement of Shaitan (Satan) is to create disharmony among husband and wife.
Jabir (RA) reported that Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said:
Iblis places his throne upon water; he then sends detachments (for creating dissension); the nearer to him in rank are those who are most notorious in creating dissension. One of them comes and says: “I did so and so.” And he says: “You have done nothing.” Then one amongst them comes and says: “I did not spare so and so until I sowed the seed of discord between a husband and a wife.” The Satan goes near him and says: “You have done well.” A’mash said: He then embraces him. (Sahih Muslim 2813 b)
Allah Almighty has provided us a way to protect ourselves from the whispers of Satan, and that is Surah Al-Baqarah, the 2nd Surah from the Holy Quran. In another hadith narrated by Abu Hurairah (RA):
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: “Do not turn your houses into graves. Indeed Ash-Shaitan does not enter the house in which Surat Al-Baqarah is recited.” (Jami` at-Tirmidhi Vol. 5, Book 42, Hadith 2877)
Therefore daily recitation of Surah Al-Baqarah is the best way for Muslim couples to protect their home and relationship from Satan.
1 – Dua for Protection from the Evil Eye
An evil eye can cast upon a person or even oneself when one looks or admires a person or oneself with strong emotions like love, hate, jealousy, or pride. It could be deliberate or unintentional, but it is a reality that cannot be ignored. Happily married couples can also be victimized by the evil eye that can destroy marriages or create mistrust between husbands and wives.
Here is our detailed article on the Symptoms Of Evil Eye In Islam.
To ward off its effects, Allah Almighty has provided His servants a way to protect themselves by reciting Surah Al-Falaq and Surah An-Nas in the morning and evening. Abu Sa’id Al-Khudri (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) used to seek protection against the evil of jinn and the evil eyes till Surat Al-Falaq and Surat An-Nas were revealed. After they were revealed, he took to them for seeking Allah’s protection and left everything besides them. [At- Tirmidhi] (Riyad as-Salihin 1015)
Here is a video of a renowned scholar Sheikh Hazem Rajab explaining the virtues of Surah Al-Falaq and Surah An-Nas.
Islam has made marriage very easy for a man and a woman. It doesn’t burden the groom or bride with preconditions of expensive dowry and abolishes extravagance and show-off, which leaves no room for fornication and illegal acts. While marriage is the first step of the ladder, keeping it is a whole new task, which basically requires three things love, trust, and compromise. For those who ask how to do this? Well, the answer is simple, read and understand the glorious book of Quran and follow the Sunnah of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) and make sure that your every action before and after marriage resonates with the Islamic way of life. It was narrated from Ibn ‘Abbas that:
The Prophet (PBUH) said: “The best of you is the one who is best to his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives.” (Sunan Ibn Majah Vol. 3, Book 9, Hadith 1977)