Happiness is a state of mind that elevates you. It is a feeling that is contagious. Islam promotes the idea of spreading happiness. It is essential to realize that once a person is content with themselves, their energy radiates to those around them.
Often being in a relationship, especially the now so commonly found Haram relationships amongst the younger generation in hopes of short term companionship, are sought to be a source of happiness. It is essential to understand the frail and immodest nature of such a relationship. Hence, we must find comfort in being a single happy Muslim woman. If you are hoping to marry, see our guides on love marriage in Islam and how to pray Istikhara, and make your time productive with how to be a productive Muslim.
How To Be A Single & Happy Muslim Woman
Due to the different needs and surroundings of every woman, there is no definite way that leads to happiness. If you’re a single Muslim woman, the following 16 ways might help you in understanding what will be the starting point of your happiness.
↓ 16 – Believe that your own company is enough for you
It is imperative for you to trust yourself and have a firm belief that you are enough for yourself which will make it easier for you to rely on Allah alone. In order to have a strong relationship with someone else in the future, you need to first learn how to love yourself and your life the way it is while you are all by yourself otherwise, it might take a toll on your future. If you’re stuck in a haram relationship, here are 8 Proven Ways To Quit Haram Relationships As Per Islam.
↓ 15 – Trust Allah’s plan
In order to stay content, you have to fulfill your duty to live. Instead of wondering and longing about why you are unable to do certain things, you should learn to have the utmost trust in God’s plan for He is surely the best of planners. Your strong faith in God’s plan for you will not only help you in becoming satisfied with yourself but also contribute to your growth as a person. Understanding the concept of Qadr is a good step towards building this trust so here are Things You Should Know About Destiny & Fate In Islam.
↓ 14 – Focus on your health: Exercise
Health is a less considered blessing. Being healthy gives us not only physical strength but also promotes mental peace. Islam has laid great importance on living a healthy life with consistent physical exercise. Taking into consideration the performance of the main tenants of Islam, including the 5 obligatory prayers, fasting in the month of Ramadan, and the performance of Hajj include spiritual and physical benefits. The hand movement, prostration and bowing are an exercise for the whole body. The Tawaf ritual in Hajj promotes physical exertion. Hence, focusing on your health, fitness, and body will keep your mind concentrated on your goals, away from sin while making you stronger.
↓ 13 – Pursue your educational goals
Education is a priority in Islam for both men and women as we’ve already discussed in our post on Inspiring Islamic Quotes on Education/Knowledge/Study. These days, it has become even easier as there are a number of national and international institutes that you can apply. If for any reason you’re unable to travel to these institutes, there are a number of virtual courses that you can sign up for.
↓ 12 – Fasting
For maintaining the spiritual health of your heart, fasting is a powerful means. The holy month of Ramadan brings along an immense amount of blessings which you should definitely make use of. The Prophet (PBUH) advised those who cannot yet marry to fast, as it is a shield (Sahih al-Bukhari 5066). Fasting from dawn till dusk also builds self-control and keeps the mind focused on Allah’s reward. This will not only help your entire focus to be on the joy Ramadan brings but all sorts of negative thoughts will be eliminated from your mind. For your motivation, here are some Islamic Quotes on Sunnah Fasting & Its Benefits.
↓ 11 – Do not make marriage your ultimate goal
Remember to trust God and His plan; whatever is decreed for you will reach you in its time. Keep making dua and take the lawful means, such as asking family and trusted people to help with a proposal. You should also realize that marriage is not the solution to your happiness. Hence, there is no point in rushing fate and making yourself paranoid about being a single woman because God has a plan for you.
↓ 10 – Goodness
To give yourself more positive energy and self-appreciation, a good way is to participate in charity groups or organizations. This will give you a sense of being helpful and useful to society.
↓ 9 – Choose the right circle
You are never completely alone as a Muslim woman hence, it is important for you to choose the right company for yourself as this definitely influences the way you think.
↓ 8 -Pay attention to your spiritual needs
Remembering God is vital for your spiritual enlightenment. The easiest way to do this is by motivating yourself to offer your daily prayers. In addition to this, recitation of the Quran on a daily basis will also help in purifying your heart and provide you with sheer satisfaction. If you’re looking for inspiration, here are the 10 Most Influential Women in Islamic History.
↓ 7 – Find happiness in your surroundings
Being a single woman allows you to be spontaneous and seek pleasure in the things around you such as observing the sunset or just a road trip/picnic with your friends. You should definitely make use of your freedom to pursue some exciting activities which will contribute to your happiness.
↓ 6 – Be patient and consistent
You should be self-aware to the extent where you know what the most consistent activity in your life is as it will have a positive effect on your mind and soul. Activities such as walking, the gym, or practicing any sport will give you a sense of control in your life and bring you great joy. Here are some Beautiful Islamic Quotes on Sabr & Patience.
↓ 5 – Realise your self-worth
Give yourself time to figure out the person you want to be. This will give you a sense of empowerment and also help you achieve things you never thought you could. Stepping out of your comfort zone and trying new things will help in boosting your confidence and make you happy.
↓ 4 – Do not compare yourself with others
If you compare your life with another’s you will be responsible for sabotaging your own happiness. You should instead count the blessings around you and work on yourself to nourish the positive aspects of your journey.
↓ 3 – Discover yourself
Take the time to reflect on your actual self. Know your worth, assess your capabilities, dreams, goals, and every day take one step towards them. By discovering yourself and realising how blessed you are, you’ll also become more grateful. Here are some beautiful Islamic Quotes About Being Grateful.
↓ 2 – Expand your social circle
Diversity in your social circle will help you in gaining a better understanding of life. If you have friends who have different backgrounds and beliefs, it will add prosperity to your life.
↓ 1 – Be at peace with your spiritual side
We are constantly noticing how far along our companions are. More often than not we tend to focus on those who are ahead of us, in this case, more religious than us. Each person grows in faith at their own pace, and Allah knows every effort you make. Do not despair or compare yourself harshly with others, but keep striving, little by little, as the Prophet (PBUH) said the most beloved deeds to Allah are the most consistent, even if small (Sahih al-Bukhari 6464).
Once we woman understand these crucial points, we’ll be on our way to leading a healthy, happy, and full life as single Muslim women, who live their life in the way Allah has prescribed. That in itself provides a sense of fulfillment and satisfaction.
Frequently Asked Questions
Can a Muslim woman be happy while single?
Yes. Contentment comes from a close relationship with Allah, gratitude and purposeful living, not only from marriage. Marriage is encouraged in Islam, but being single for a period is not a failure.
Is it wrong to want to get married?
No. Marriage is a Sunnah and a natural, praiseworthy wish. Make dua, seek lawful means such as asking trusted family or friends, and trust Allah’s timing.
What does Islam say about relationships before marriage?
Intimate boyfriend-girlfriend relationships are not permitted in Islam. Getting to know a prospective spouse in a respectful way, with family involvement, is the approach most scholars accept. Read ways to quit haram relationships.
Can I live and travel on my own as a single Muslim woman?
Scholars differ on details. For example, many require a mahram for long journeys, while others allow safe group travel. Consult a qualified scholar about your circumstances.
How can I deal with loneliness as a single Muslim woman?
Keep up regular prayer, Quran, dhikr and good friendships, and stay active in community and charity work. Reach out to a counsellor or trusted person if loneliness feels heavy.